Thursday, April 7, 2011

Chameleons and Eggs

Have you ever taken a personality test?  You know, the ones that tell you if you are a red left brained golden retriever that leans towards depression! I'm not a real big fan of the tests for a couple of reasons.
First, I always find myself trying to figure out what all the questions really mean and what they are trying to push me towards.  Some of this is just how my brain functions and then some of it is because I have struggled with how I am wired.  So if I fool the test I can be someone else :)
Second, I often find myself in this weird middle ground on these tests.  This weird balance of left brain right brain or towards the middle on introvert and extrovert.  Or when I take the test a second time I have changed and then I wonder which one I really am!
Like in the movie Runaway Bride... There is a part in the movie where she realizes that she doesn't know what kind of eggs she likes.  She just always likes the kind of eggs of the guy she is dating.  There have been times where I find myself being a chameleon and just fitting into what works best in the moment.  At times I think I did this out of ease... and then others because I didn't like who I was.  I think over the last 10 years I have really grabbed a hold of who I am and have become more and more thankful for who I am.
Thirdly, in regards to these tests, I think I also feel like it is not okay to just settle right on in to who these tests say we are and just sit there.  God's work in our lives moves us, changes us and molds us to be more like His Son.  And so we shouldn't be settling in and becoming static.
And lastly in 38 years I think there are things about me that have changed a lot and somethings, so I am told, that have been here the whole time.
So why am I talking about all of this anyway?  This past week we talked about our strengths in our team meeting that come from the book Strengths Finder.  I had taken the test 2 time previously with only 2 of my 5 remaining the same, thus making me wonder which were really true.  Then I decided to just read all the descriptions and figure out what I think my 5 are.  And again, the 2 in common remain and the other 3 changed, again! It revealed some good stuff.  As I read through my strengths, according to this book, I didn't necessarily learn a new thought about me and how I'm wired.  But I did learn some new things about how I like to be lead and encouraged.  Or maybe it's clarity on things that I already knew about myself.  Either way... it was some great info.
And I was reminded that it is a good thing to be able to share with those around you what helps you, what encourages you, and to be honest about what hurts you.  It's not always easy, but it sure does deepen the relationship.
So what am I really trying to say?  I'm not totally sure...
Maybe... be honest with those you live life with and know what kind of eggs you like?

Photo of eggs from and chameleons from David R Parks and Robert Siegel.

1 comment:

  1. I've thought of this often in making eggs. I need to learn how to make Blake's favorite AND maybe just maybe try something besides scrambled eggs..the runny factor just scares me-yuck....AND interested what you learned about how to be lead and encouraged by others.